Passing Judgement

At what point does being judgmental go from a truly honest assessment to a hyper critical  insult? The ability to form judgments exists all over. Courts, on the runway, on TV reality shows,  sporting events, cooking contests, school, a whole slew of arenas But when that judgement is in direct regard to a person and not their skills, we are often deemed as harsh over critical and insensitive. The word itself  holds negative connotation. If I told someone I was judgmental they definitely  wouldn't see it as a good  thing. But it is a good thing, it's the ability to be objective, to judge without partiality, and to provide a concrete, concise, definitive decision. If you can't be judgmental, how can you decipher right from wrong or good from bad?

Just a thought. Don't judge me...

Trepidation. 

 I approach so many things with trepidation, not fear, but trepidation. I go forward, even though I have no idea what I am moving toward. I walk, but I drag my gait, I walk slow, I purposely take time and move slower with each step. I almost know to wait for the bad thing to come, the wrong words that always seem to be said just so I can confirm that whatever it is I was moving toward fell apart BEFORE I got there, that I had no hand in it's failure. But is waiting, deliberately, moving at a sloth's place ruin what could have been had I just moved with more purpose, more rapidity, more urgency?  You never will know all the reasons for the demise of any relationship, but know that what you don't do can be just as much a factor as what you do, do.   

My Perspective

Perspective so often changes based on your position in life and your mood. We can be overly critical when we are bitter, or we can be  overtly optimistic  when we are happy.  It can be altered by your finances, or lack thereof. It shouldn't be; we have complete control over how we  view things.  Perspective is a controlled outlook. It need not change with the happenings in your life. Keeping a grounded perspective makes you strong. Keeping your eye fixated on positive change or outcomes allows progression within your life. An optimistic hope is not a bad thing as a pessimist or pure realist would tell you... Being hopeful means, trusting in God, in people, in yourself.  That takes strength, resilience, commitment and confidence.  Everyone possesses these virtues. Unfortunately, we all can be overcome with doubt, anxiety, and grief BUT  everyone has the wherewithal  to choose differently. So do it.