Accept Your Imperfections.

 We  all are everything we say we are not, and we all are everything we sometimes don't want to be. We are fallible, our nature will be fret with foibles, and our lives will be laced with less than sound decisions.  Don't beat yourself to a pulp over it. It hurts!  Accept that we are created imperfect and strive for your own definition of  righteousness and just self. Do not allow someone else to write your definition. Tell yourself who you are and act upon it.  Know your mission statement is sealed through your actions, your words, your miss-steps, your misfortunes, your selections, your opinions, your decisions, your shortcomings and your abilities to recover.  You encompass a slew of positives and negatives, positives not always good and negatives not always so bad.  This is what creates the beauty of the human being. Love the quirk. Hate the quest for idyllic person/self, there is none. Keep your vehicle of life moving.

All human beings have their own set of idiosyncrasies and imperfections. Acceptance is realization and full cognitive awareness that you are willing to  take someone  "as is".  I find that people that don't accept others do not accept themselves either and remain in a constant state of self-loathing because they never measure up to their own unrealistic expectations of who they should be. I witness these people unhappy, bitter, and mean-spirited. They may never stop to wonder what drives their disdain, for they are too caught up in their own web of self-hatred to ever love or accept another. They blame everyone else and claim victim status every chance they get.  They weep endlessly, remain in a purposeful funk and just stay there nursing their cocktail of shame and regret while the paddle down the river of whoa on their self inflatable boat of discontent.  The sun never shines in their world because  their weather report is always a mix of clouds and high percentages of rain. Why? Because they don't accept themselves "as is".  Being  "as is" doesn't mean you are marked down or less valuable, it means you are human.  When these people fall short of their own self-proclaimed ideology, they grow depressed because they are reaching for a height that does not exist.

I am happy to be "as is".  I love being a little eccentric, a little off-kilter, a little different.  I accept myself wholly.  Do you?


Truth be Told: Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexities and injustices.  -Paul Tournier

Debunk Defeat.

For a gallant spirit there can never be defeat.

Now I don't know who Wallis Simpson is but he had  some wise words, don't ya reckon?

You must refuse to fail. You don't have to  accept hindrances, roadblocks, and the like. You must  merely get past them and keep it moving.  One  must not let things discourage you, kill you, or  put a damper on your fire. The more you fuel your inner burning and  don't let the torch dim, the less defeat will have game time in the arena that is  you.

Defeat is agonizing yes, but victory is so much sweeter. The battles are always worth winning when the outcome makes  the journey worth traveling.  The journey doesn't always have you stopped at beautiful expansive vistas or Kodak moment  locales, but when you reach you destination, you soon come to the realization that the trip actually wasn't so bad after all. Moreover, you made it through with your own reserves of strength,supported by your spirit and will.  It simply does not matter if the trip was made in a  falling out jalopy or a stealth G6, whether it took 100 days or 1 day, you got there my friend. Rejoice.

Truth be told: Realize that setbacks are only temporary. The sun will always shine after the rain and the light will forever follow the darkness. 

The Secret to a Happy Life.

What does Angela think the secret to happiness in  life is?

It is when you make the cognizant effort to be happy no matter where you are, who you are with, or what you are doing.  Happiness reigns supreme when the happiness derives internally.  Get rid of  the asinine  expectations you secretly set for others; I'm not saying forget them, I am saying stop putting them  (and the  blame) of your disposition on others and start putting them on yourself.  There is no one to  blame for your unhappiness but the man staring back at you in the mirror. Just because someone/something is the catalyst of the unhappiness doesn't mean you have to stay sullen and sulking stuffing your face in a gluttonous bowl of Cherry Garcia or drowning it in your mug o' beer. Make the effort to resolve the feelings and do what you have to do let it go.  Releasing ill feelings and stopping the negative behaviors that are associated with it will free your mind, and  like the song says  " And the rest will follow.".

Truth be told: Stop accepting your unhappiness and start promoting your joy.