A private truth revealed.

Even if no one is eloquent enough to describe the essence of love or can't find the appropriate words to describe exactly how it feels, they KNOW how it feels because they, well... feel it. However, here is my effort to do so based on my own feelings.

Love transfers emotions.
When you hurt for someone, your heart heaves, your anxiety about a situation they have to endure may increase. You feel it physically from the inside out and embody their pain through some kind of cosmic transference. Alternately, when the person you love has a personal or career success, your endorphins are off the charts and feel like you won the Powerball yourself!

Love is uncontested selflessness.

  You don't have to try to be selfless, it just happens. You stop putting yourself first, almost effortlessly.. pure agape. You stop being afraid of someone taking advantage of your love and you start finding ways to dedicate yourself to that love and do all things to see the other person flourishes. You ensure that they are happy, content, and provided for.


Loyalty is not in question.
Love is trusting. This is one of the most  trite, obvious, overexposed truths to love. There is no doubt of who you would ride or die for. No doubt that your secrets aren't safe. No need to say " Please don't tell anyone but...."  Nope, no need for disclaimers when it's the real thing.

Love makes you want to be better, to do better, to be a better person.
Love opens doors to self.  It challenges you to address your conscience, to reevaluate your negative actions and to find ways to improve you, your life, and the life of the other person.

Love is respect.
If you love someone, you respect them. Not because you have to but  because you want to and feel like you have to. And we all know what respect is, no need to define it by splitting hairs as to what it is and what it ain't. It's really not as complicated as we tend to make it  by dissecting people's words or actions.

These are just a few of the truths of love that I have learned over the years. I have been fortunate for the most part to have a limited amount of "bad decisons" and a larger amount of  positive influences and enforcements. From my children who taught me what it meant to be selfless to the love of my life that made me yearn to be a better woman, mother, and human being. I love you all.