Angelaism # 3 Stalking... or being attentive?

It's only stalking when you don't like him. If you do like him, then he's attentive.



Firstly, let me point out the obvious. Most men think women are walking contradictions, claim we don't know what we want, or that we confuse the hell out of them.  (Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars anyone??)
Case in point.  A "man", one in which a female shall remain unnamed told me about is "stalking" her.  I asked ever so innocently what qualified as stalking. Advisement was made that the ogre (unsure if she likes him she says!) called her everyday, creeped her out when he showed up at her workplace, and suggesting they take a weekend vacay after only 4 weeks of dating!  At this juncture, I believe she was looking at me to give the female sign of approval.. you know the eyeroll in agreement as if I can't fathom how he dare suggest that. But me being me, I asked her why it bothered her so much.

"Welllllll".....  "I really don't know if I want to continue to date him, I don't if he's a keeper".

Hmmmm. Yes, I thought but why is it stalking?

I challenge her:  " Dear friend, if it was Mr. Big, (you know the one, the love of your life, the one where you just can't get it right but would absolutely jump at any minute gesture as a sign of love and attention) What would you say??".

She looked at be blankly.  "Well, I love HIM, but that's different".




Truth be told:
Men, you are right, women are walking contradictions and they apply different schools of  thought to various situations so that it makes them feel better and fits into  their argument. 


Having said that, at the end of the conversation she says she has to go replay that voicemail from Mr. Big over again and again and again.. You know the one where he says  'Hey, it's me, gimme a call'.." I need to hear if he's smiling, sounding like he needs me, or if he sounds like he wants to get back together"....