Angelaism #8: Investing in Love.

Love is an investment. Sometimes the market crashes but it always rebounds.

It's always easy to be happy go lucky when your "market" (aka relationship) stocks are thriving, you are earning interest at an inflated rate, your relationship is increasing in value and it seems to be more stable than ever without a hint of depreciation. You definitely are experiencing the King Kong syndrome and you think you cannot lose.

Then. Crash.  An unexpected windfall and immediately your stocks devalue and you wonder why (to protect your most valuable assets) you just didn't diversify or trade before.

Markets can be volatile, unpredictable, and risky. So what? Such is life and love. No matter how much you research, prepare, consult, trade,  it's gonna have it's highs and lows, gains and losses.

Truth be told:
Be aggressive. The more you invest the more you stand to gain. And what do you really have to lose?  You can always recover.

Valuable advice huh?

A private truth revealed.

Even if no one is eloquent enough to describe the essence of love or can't find the appropriate words to describe exactly how it feels, they KNOW how it feels because they, well... feel it. However, here is my effort to do so based on my own feelings.

Love transfers emotions.
When you hurt for someone, your heart heaves, your anxiety about a situation they have to endure may increase. You feel it physically from the inside out and embody their pain through some kind of cosmic transference. Alternately, when the person you love has a personal or career success, your endorphins are off the charts and feel like you won the Powerball yourself!

Love is uncontested selflessness.

  You don't have to try to be selfless, it just happens. You stop putting yourself first, almost effortlessly.. pure agape. You stop being afraid of someone taking advantage of your love and you start finding ways to dedicate yourself to that love and do all things to see the other person flourishes. You ensure that they are happy, content, and provided for.


Loyalty is not in question.
Love is trusting. This is one of the most  trite, obvious, overexposed truths to love. There is no doubt of who you would ride or die for. No doubt that your secrets aren't safe. No need to say " Please don't tell anyone but...."  Nope, no need for disclaimers when it's the real thing.

Love makes you want to be better, to do better, to be a better person.
Love opens doors to self.  It challenges you to address your conscience, to reevaluate your negative actions and to find ways to improve you, your life, and the life of the other person.

Love is respect.
If you love someone, you respect them. Not because you have to but  because you want to and feel like you have to. And we all know what respect is, no need to define it by splitting hairs as to what it is and what it ain't. It's really not as complicated as we tend to make it  by dissecting people's words or actions.

These are just a few of the truths of love that I have learned over the years. I have been fortunate for the most part to have a limited amount of "bad decisons" and a larger amount of  positive influences and enforcements. From my children who taught me what it meant to be selfless to the love of my life that made me yearn to be a better woman, mother, and human being. I love you all.

Angelaism # 3 Stalking... or being attentive?

It's only stalking when you don't like him. If you do like him, then he's attentive.



Firstly, let me point out the obvious. Most men think women are walking contradictions, claim we don't know what we want, or that we confuse the hell out of them.  (Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars anyone??)
Case in point.  A "man", one in which a female shall remain unnamed told me about is "stalking" her.  I asked ever so innocently what qualified as stalking. Advisement was made that the ogre (unsure if she likes him she says!) called her everyday, creeped her out when he showed up at her workplace, and suggesting they take a weekend vacay after only 4 weeks of dating!  At this juncture, I believe she was looking at me to give the female sign of approval.. you know the eyeroll in agreement as if I can't fathom how he dare suggest that. But me being me, I asked her why it bothered her so much.

"Welllllll".....  "I really don't know if I want to continue to date him, I don't if he's a keeper".

Hmmmm. Yes, I thought but why is it stalking?

I challenge her:  " Dear friend, if it was Mr. Big, (you know the one, the love of your life, the one where you just can't get it right but would absolutely jump at any minute gesture as a sign of love and attention) What would you say??".

She looked at be blankly.  "Well, I love HIM, but that's different".




Truth be told:
Men, you are right, women are walking contradictions and they apply different schools of  thought to various situations so that it makes them feel better and fits into  their argument. 


Having said that, at the end of the conversation she says she has to go replay that voicemail from Mr. Big over again and again and again.. You know the one where he says  'Hey, it's me, gimme a call'.." I need to hear if he's smiling, sounding like he needs me, or if he sounds like he wants to get back together"....