Imagi-Nation.

At a very you age, we start believing that an alternative life or a life not our own is better than what we have. Why?   Little girls grown up playing dress up, Barbie, Kings and Queens, and all sorts of imaginative  role playing games.. While we try and expand their little minds, are we also hurting their esteem?  Are we telling them that  physical beauty, class, or power is paramount ?  What's going on in your castle?

If we are not also being their advisers as to what reality is their mindsets will be that superficial riches are what they should be striving for. And when real life doesn't pan out the way it does in their imaginations, they will experience let down.   Let down turns into a poor confidence. Poor confidence turns into an injured spirit.

I see young and even grown adults modeling the above behavior so don't be quick to say it's no big deal if we let the young and impressionable do it. If adults value  exotic cars, wads of cash,  bevies of women, and expensive clothes over moral values we really should be taking a review of what we are unknowingly showing our children.

All I am saying is be careful with what we show the little ones, they can't  decipher a need and a want until we teach them, and if we aren't teaching them they aren't learning it.  When is the last time the TV told them that all they need is shelter, clothes, and food?

I have said that my primary focus is to raise my children to be decent, good human beings; That is number one.  I attempt to teach them what real value means, what real life is, and that a stupid climb up a ladder or where you are at on some totem pole has zero to do with success. Neither does how you look,  what you possess materialistically, or how popular you are.


Truth be Told: When we teach our little girls to be princesses and queens let them know to  be the     sweet princess, the one that loves, is kind, friendly and accepting.   Don't let her  be the princess that runs the Mean Girls Club.  Attitude does not mean rolling your eyes or neck telling people how it is, attitude means the ability to know how to use grace, intelligence, and kindness to say what you want. A queen exalts herself, not by belittling others but by uplifting them.  Make sure you are injecting reality into your children's life. That's what I do in my castle anyway. After all, I am the queen of it even if it's just a 20 year old condo sans a moat and drawbridge.