Embracing your Imperfections

So I am reading this book.........................

This is one way that prompts me to write. I read something new that sparks an idea or thought and I am compelled to journey through journaling in an attempt to grasp the ideas that are set  forth upon the stark white pages of a book (okay well not really a book in the sense of the word book.. I'm reading an e-book but STILL, it qualifies) that I feel all too compelled to read and not put down until it's complete because I don't want to lose the "lesson". I want it fresh in my mind so I can apply it to my daily living....

The book? Don't laugh.... "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown. GREAT speaker, great evocation, great researcher, great book. I'm about 2/3 in and I am digging it.

She says that we need to stop the incessant competition within ourselves and outwardly as well and embrace who we are organically. Admittance to self, acceptance of self, and loving of thy self.   When you realize that who you are is who you are and that is that and you should be fine.

She stresses the difference between communication and connection. With the influx of social media and electronic devices we think we are more connected when in fact all we are is just more communicative.  Connecting is far more deeply rooted than someone just pushing buttons on a computer or texting an  "I love you.".  Connection is what we NEED, communication is what we do. Big difference.

As humans, connection is vital. It's saying  "I need you".  We need others to empathize, to understand, to be in our corner. When this is established an organic relationship grows and deepens. When we let go of the fear of exposure and "let it all out" without fear of judgment (and none bestowed upon us), we gain strength and we begin to practice and live the notion that imperfect is okay. We need not fear loss because we think we are inadequate in someone else's eyes just because we think on the inside that we are less than what we should be.  Most people love us more than we love ourselves. That is not how it should be, we should stop being our worst critic and start being our biggest proponent.


Truth be Told:  Acceptance of all your perceived imperfections and short comings is not saying you're a failure;  it's loving yourself as you are, with what you have, right now.  And being happy about it!