Why do we make that statement and what are we meaning when we say it? As it pertains to me, I think (sometimes.... okay often... say it) when I see someone acting out of character; brown nose style. So many are in search of the acceptance of others as a proving ground for their own self worth. They some how think, without much thought, that if they can get someone to like them that they are likable to themselves. Why not KNOW you are likable by BEING your own likable self? Draw attention to yourself through another manner other than conforming to whatever mold is in front of you. You're a human being, not silly putty. Change your "shape" for no one. The people that love you really WILL love, like and RECOGNIZE the good and wonderful things about you. Act earnestly.
Look..
Not everyone is going to like you no matter what they see or what you do. They may dislike you because your laugh is irritating or you repeat the same story to 5 people in their presence. I watch people mold themselves to be an idyllic version of what they think someone wants them to be. They my guess, unknowingly think that they, on their own, are not great enough. There is a fine line between self betterment, partner pleasing or trying something new and sacrificing your standards, ethics, and ways of behavior to have someone like you or envy you. As relatively aware adults, we know the difference. Right? Right.
Having said that, if you go demoting yourself, becoming darker, doing asinine things for attention or playing dumb, then you won't be liked by me. But it shouldn't matter but would you like you if you saw what we see?
Truth Be Told: Don't be the sacrificial lamb for someone else's acceptance unless it is the person staring back at you in the mirror. After all, you are the only one that is stuck with you for the rest of your life so you might as well enjoy yourself.
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